We have the cell
phone, Blackberry, Instant Messaging, and the list goes
on of ways that we can be contacted instantaneously. Let’s face it; most of us take
Family Time for granted. If you are working outside of
the home, it is easy to let those precious few evening
hours be taken up with phone calls, returning email,
putting “final touches” on work related items, etc. If
you are working in the home the distractions are
similar; phone calls, volunteerism, housework, etc.
point is that working parents (both inside & outside the
home) are letting outside influences take precedence
over Family Time. Would we let having to stay an
additional hour at work in order to send the CEO the
sales figures for the 1st quarter have
priority over our child’s ballet recital? Would we allow
getting the last load of clothes laundered take
precedence over singing “The Wheels on the Bus” (for the
100th time) with your toddler? Each of these
things is important and depending upon our value system
at the time any of these activities may or may not make
it to your priority list.
If you “schedule” the time,
you may be able to get more “Family Time” than you
Here are a few tips to finding more
Schedule It– Almost everyone has
some system of remembering all the things that need to
be done at work/home. Whether it is a Day-Timer, a
Blackberry, a refrigerator calendar you have a way to
keep track of the myriad of activities in your family.
Family Time is a priority that you want to find time for
so schedule it. In our home, Friday night from 6:30pm
until the kids’ bedtime is Family Time. We all have to
do an activity together. Each child gets a chance to
choose what he/she would like to do for our Family Night
and EVERYONE has to do it. This is a great way to get
everyone together and you can find times in the midst of
your time together to get to know what is happening in
your child’s world in a relaxed setting. Some of the
favorite activities at our house; the arcade, bowling,
Scrabble tournaments, Uno, music concerts, and movies.
Commit To It – It is
easy to let phone calls, email, net surfing, etc. to
take your attention away. Don’t let it! Turn the cell
phone off, turn the computer off, turn the Blackberry
off and truly give all of your attention to your family
for your designated Family Time. Don’t let anything
intrude on your time and your kids will see how much
Family Time matters to you, how much they matter to you.
Enjoy It – If you are
not accustomed to scheduling a block of Family Time, the
prospect of spending a block of unstructured time could
seem a little daunting. In order to ease into a
comfortable time with your family, you might first want
to schedule “activities” that take you out of the house.
With activities, there is an opportunity to bond during
the activity, but if there is a lull in communication it
will be OK because you can focus on the activity.
Real Life Guidance: Finding
More Family Time and take the 1st
step to finding more family time today.
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