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How to Stop Toddler Whining

June 30, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Uncategorized No Comments →

It’s a common question that mothers of toddlers ask: “How do I stop my toddler from whining?” To be able to answer this question, however, knowing why your toddler whines is important. After you understand why your toddler whines, you can begin to work with them to stop this habit.

The biggest reason toddlers whine is because they often can’t communicate well using words. They whine to get your attention and to communicate that they want something. They may be frustrated or they may be tired. Unfortunately they soon realize that whining produces results, so they begin to use it to get their way even past the age of toddlerhood.

To avoid having problems with whiny school-aged children, or worse – whiny teens, you’ll want to stop them before it becomes a habit. Here are six ideas you can use that may nip this bad habit in the bud before it has an opportunity to bloom.

1. Ignore the whining. As much as it may grate on your nerves, if you don’t react when they start whining, they’ll learn that they won’t get what they want that way. If you constantly give in when they begin whining, they’ll have won and will continue to use it to get their way.

2. Explain that you don’t understand. If your child starts to whine, tell them you can’t understand. To help you understand, they need to speak calmly, quietly, and in a normal tone of voice. When they can speak to you in a normal voice, then you can listen to what they say and decide whether or not to give them what they wanted.

3. Teach them simple sign language. If your toddler can’t talk much yet, teaching them simple sign language can help them communicate what they want without the whine. Go online or to the local library to find a book on baby sign language. Teaching them signs for hungry, thirsty, and paying attention to body signals like rubbing the eyes to tell you they are tired can help tremendously when stopping the whining train from leaving the station.

4. Distract them. When they start whining, don’t give in to them. Instead, try distracting them by singing a song, reciting the alphabet, or offering them something else.

5. Put them down for a nap. Being over-tired is one of the reasons toddlers whine. If you know they’re tired, having them take a nap may help both of you.

6. Tell them what you expect of them. Even though they’re young, that doesn’t mean they can’t learn. Explain to them that you expect them to sit still in the buggy without whining and asking you for everything. If they have behaved well, you may want to allow them a “prize” for their good behavior.

Whining is a common activity of nearly all toddlers, and even some adults. Using one or more of these tips to stop your toddler from whining may be what you need for peace in your home. Just remember, if you don’t do anything, the whining is sure to continue.

Benefits of Green Tea

June 27, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Healthy Living No Comments →

While green tea has been used in eastern cultures for over 4,000 years, only recently has it been recognized for its medicinal properties in western culture. Here are just 6 of the many benefits of green tea:

* Protect your smile. Green tea contains bacteria fighting agents that kill the help stop plaque production. Less plaque means you have cleaner, healthier teeth and gums. Another plus, it also kills the bacteria responsible for bad breath.

* Prevent cancer. EGCG is a powerful antioxidant found in many teas, but is present in much larger concentrations in green tea. Antioxidants combat chemicals that are naturally produced in the body that can cause cancer and other health issues. Studies have shown one substance in green tea can slow the growth of cancer cells. While research hasn’t been done on every type of cancer, green tea has shown that it may reduce the risk of one cancer up to 60 percent. It has also been shown it may reduce the reoccurrence of certain cancers.

* Promotes a health heart. The EGCG in Green Tea has been shown to lower total cholesterol levels. Specifically, it lowered “bad” cholesterol more than it does “good” cholesterol. EGCG also helps prevent against heart attack and stroke by inhibiting the production of blood clots. Green tea also helps to lower levels of stress hormones in the body, leaving you more relaxed. Being stressed out can cause damage to the heart along with the rest of your body. Drinking green tea could help keep your heart beating a lot longer.

* Boost immune system. One benefit of green tea is that it can help fight bacteria in your mouth, it can also help fight diseases in the rest of your body. Green tea contains an amino acid that helps fight bacteria and improve the immune response in your body. If you regularly drink green tea, you may find you get sick a lot less.

* Ease rheumatoid arthritis. Green tea is not only beneficial in easing the symptoms of this painful disease; it has also been shown to help prevent you from ever getting it. In China, where more people drink green tea regularly, there is a much lower incidence of rheumatoid arthritis.

* Lose weight. When you eat a lot of carbohydrates, your body responds by producing a lot of insulin; leaving you tired and
craving more food. Green tea has been shown to help keep blood sugar at lower levels so you don’t produce as much insulin. This can help you eat less and lose weight. Studies have also found that green tea can speed up how fast your body metabolizes certain foods. And the faster your metabolism, the faster you slim down.

As you can see, there are many benefits of green tea. You should realize that drinking green tea every so often is probably not going to make a big difference to your weight. Many of the studies that produced results had participants drinking up to 10 glasses of green tea a day! If you find you’re just can’t drink enough green tea, there are supplements available that are green tea based; however, the best option is the real thing.

Caffeine Withdrawal Symptoms

June 25, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Healthy Living No Comments →

Millions of people worldwide use caffeine every morning to give themselves that extra boost they need to start their day. In fact, caffeine is the most widely used drug in the world, even more than alcohol. The problem is, too much caffeine can not only leave you feeling buzzed; it can cloud your mind when it starts to wear off and may cause permanent physical damage by increasing your heart rate. While the healthiest option is to stop using caffeine altogether, cutting off your supply can cause a host of withdrawal symptoms.

Caffeine is a stimulant, it wakes you up and helps keep your mind sharp. This means that if your body is used to caffeine and stops getting its daily dose, you’ll likely be tired and find it difficult to concentrate. Many people who abruptly stop caffeine find themselves barely able to stay awake and even harder to stay on track. They often make more mistakes at work.

While loss of concentration and focus is common and expected, there are some other physical symptoms you should be aware of as well. At least 50% of people going through caffeine withdrawal experience headaches; they usually feature a dull generalized pain rather than anything sharp and focused. People in withdrawal may also experience muscle soreness or stiffness, chills, and hot spells. It is important to recognize these symptoms as being from caffeine withdrawal; otherwise you may fear you have the flu or a more serious illness.

Caffeine withdrawal symptoms can be emotional as well as physical. We’re used to feeling a certain way when we stop feeling that way, it can take a toll. Lack of caffeine can leave you feeling irritable, restless, depressed or anxious. People who abruptly stop caffeine may not be able to take work and go home early. They often lash out at their friends, family and coworkers with little or no reason.

Everyone’s response to caffeine withdrawal is different. It depends on your own personal physiology as well as how much caffeine you were consuming per day. Symptoms can range from annoying to debilitating. If your symptoms are mild, you may be able to quit cold turkey. For those with a severe addiction, suddenly stopping caffeine intake may be unbearable.

The best way to avoid these withdrawal symptoms is to slowly cut down on caffeine instead of quitting cold turkey. While pain killers may take care of some of the problems, there is no magic pill or any other cure for withdrawal symptoms besides time. If your symptoms are minor, you may be able to quit all at once, but it your symptoms are severe, you should decrease slowly for your own safety.

While it may be tough to take, quitting or cutting back on caffeine is a great choice to make for living a healthier life.

Stress and High Blood Pressure

June 23, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Stress Management, Uncategorized No Comments →

If you let stress get to you, too much you will have the chance of risking high blood pressure. That one thing would be bad for you, especially if you are young, even if you are not young. It does not matter how old you are you could always risk that chance. High blood pressure could be caused by a lot of different things, but stress is the number one thing that would start it off.

Stress and high blood pressure could lead to a lot of other health problems too. So, before this happens, stop your stress to avoid this from continuing to happen to you. If you put your mind to what you are stressing about, think about it, is it worth it. Is it worth risking the possibility of having high blood pressure, probably not? If you are afraid of this happening, already happening, or think it is going to happen. Call some one to talk to about what you are stressed about. There are always ways to avoid stress.

You’re not sure whom to talk to about it, try your family doctor. He would probably rather tell you ways to avoid stress, before he would want to tell you that you have high blood pressure. He also would rather prescribe you ways to get help if your stress is that bad, and then prescribe you some type of nerve pill for your stress.

The best way to reduce this risk is that, you should not get stressed over every little thing. Don’t think about nothing in a negative way; always-think positive about things or even life in general. If you think negative all the time you will be very stressed, and that will not reduce the risk of high blood pressure at all. Life is way to short to be stressed all the time.

The way this world is, the whole place and people could be stressed. There are people that do not let things get to them as much as other people do. There are people that stop to think about things in life, but they realize that it is not worth to stress about it at all. That is the way that everyone should be. Thinking of things, this way will reduce the stress in life, and reduce the risk of having high blood pressure. Life is too short to be stressed all the time, take it easy and enjoy your life.

Stress and being in debt

June 21, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Healthy Living, Stress Management No Comments →

Money is a source of stress, no matter how much you have, or don’t have. Stress is brought about by worrying what you are going to do with your money, where you are going to get money, and how you are going to pay the bills next. To lessen the stress in your life, you are going to have to make your money work for you, and your budget. Being on a budget, and sticking to that budget is going to lessen the stress in your life.

If you have too much stress in your life because of stress, you first need to sit down and think about what you have. You have money coming into the home for work, or from any other source. The money you have coming in usually is not going to change. Now you have to seriously think about where you spend your money. If you are spending much of your money on eating out, on going to the movies and not paying the bills, you have some serious thinking to do. You need to list all the expenses for the home.

It can be stressful thinking about how many bills you have, but in the end, you are going to shorten the stressful times in your life as you take control of your bills and expenses. In reviewing where you are spending your money and how you are spending your money, you will have to make a few decisions. Decide where you are going to find an extra $100 per month. This could mean you don’t eat lunch out, that you don’t go to the bar everyday, or perhaps that you are not going to stop at the store every day after work but just one day a week. You need to cut bills, and cut the stress about money in your life so you can feel better about your finances every day.

To cut stress about money, you should also put a plan into effect that will help you create a savings account. A savings account can be started with just five dollars a week. As small as that may be, when you really have an emergency you don’t have to stress out about money because you will have a few bucks in the savings account that will get you through that emergency time. Learn to cut on expenses, and save money, both are great methods of cutting the stress in your life when it all comes down to money!

How to help your child manage stress

June 19, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children, Stress Management No Comments →

Stress is a normal part of growing up and being a child. Children are constantly changing and it is important to help them cope with the everyday cause and effects that it can have on them. Normal pressures and tension will naturally disappear as your child develops. When stress reaches a certain level in your child, they will need to have help from family members, teachers and even doctors to get them through it.

Children will learn from their parents and other adults. This is also true about how to handle stress. If they see you get all worked up and upset, they will probably do the same. If you do not like what you are seeing, you may want to change your own habits and the way that you take on pressure.

Remember what it was like when you were your child’s age. Think about the situation and what you remember doing about it. Do not deny or make fun of your child’s stress or worries. These worries are real to them and they need to have your attention in a positive way. Together the both of you can work out the problem and get it under control.

Communication is very important. You need to talk to your children and help with the tension that they are feeling because of a certain subject. Most of the time, it is something small that is causing their stress. Be willing to help them and talk it over to find the best solution that both of you can agree on to make the situation better.

Do not lie to your children. Tell them the truth about family matters and crises. Do not try and protect them from everything that is going on. Sooner or later, they will find out and they will only be more stressed when they learn that their parents lied to them. Your goal in life as a parent is to eliminate stress in your child’s life and not to cause it.
Let your child be involved in the decisions that need to be made and how to solve

Problems. They will feel encouraged and loved when you are including them in these important things. Provide your child with the tools that they are going to need in life to make those hard decisions and to deal with stress on a regular basis. This will help your child develop better both mentally and physically in life.

Give Your Teen Time and Attention

June 17, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children No Comments →

No one likes to feel like they don’t matter or that they’re not wanted. Sometimes, however, teens feel that way even if their family isn’t aware of those feelings. That’s why it’s important to give your teen time and attention. You want them to feel like they are important, not only to you, but also the family as a whole.

Spending time together as a family is something that strong families do. Some teens are more independent than others, and may not need the extra time and attention. However, your teen may need your undivided attention on regular basis – more than you know. Since you know your teen best, you can determine how much time the two of you need to spend together.

Are they going through a hard time at school? They may need to know that you’re available to listen without judging them. You can encourage them by explaining some of the trouble you faced when you were their age. If they know that what they’re going through is common to teens, it may help them feel better about the situation and themselves.

They may have broken up with their boyfriend or girlfriend and need you to reassure them that it’s not the end of the world. You don’t want to give them platitudes about young love or time heals all wounds. Offer them a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen.

Perhaps your family has been affected by divorce and your teen feels like the split is their fault. It could also be that since their parents aren’t together anymore they’re feeling vulnerable and that their world has been torn apart. It’s times like this that teens need extra time and attention. You may want to concentrate on them to let them know the breakup of your marriage wasn’t their fault and that you’re not going anywhere. Reassure them that you and your spouse still love them but that you had problems that you couldn’t overcome.

Whatever the situation that makes your teen feel that they need you, you’ll want to know how can you spend more time with them? It’s not as hard as you think. In fact, it could be as easy as eating meals together each night instead of everyone running their separate ways.

You could also try taking up a shared hobby or sport. Has your teen always wanted to try rollerblading? Now would be the perfect time for both of you to take it up. If you have a teen daughter, you may want to spend time going through old photographs and create scrapbooks together – one for each of you.

It’s not really that important what you do to give your teen time and attention. What’s important is that you’re actually spending time together, talking, and listening to what they have to say. They want to know they matter and spending time with them can help accomplish this.

Experts agree that friends and peers are important to children and teens, but there’s no one that can compare to the influence a family has on them. When teens spend regular, quality time with their families, they get the type of support that only families can give. And that support can make a world of difference in their quality of life.

Need More Help?

Here are two guides to help you connect with your teen, so you can help them with the rocky road of being a teenager.

1. Real Life Guidance to Understanding Your Teen shows you how to accept what you can and cannot control in your teen’s life, how to cope with mood swings, keeping the lines of communication open.

2. Real Life Guidance to Helping Your Teen in High School includes practical suggestions to help your child find his/her identity, avoid bullies, handle peer pressure and more.

Grab them both to be armed with the easy-to-follow advice at your fingertips. They’re available for instant download, which means you can get the help you need any day of the week, even if it’s the middle of the night.

Why Hire a Life Coach

June 15, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Uncategorized No Comments →

Have you ever considered hiring a life coach or thought about getting life coach training? Perhaps you’ve hesitated because you weren’t sure how a life coach could help you or maybe you think you don’t really need a life coach. Well, in this article I’m going to give you some reasons that you may have not thought of about why you should hire a life coach.


A life coach can help you get organized. You may not think of a life coach as helping you with organization, but most life coaches are trained for this purpose. The reason many people struggle in some areas of their life or in their business is because they are not naturally organized. Hiring a life coach can help you learn to be organized and stay organized in both your personal and business life.

Time Management

Time management is a skill and you may not possess naturally, and hiring a life coach can help you see areas where you can make better use of your time. A life coach can also help you with scheduling in both your home life and in your business.

Stress Management

A life coach is trained to help you manage stress. By helping you find the issues, activities and habits that cause stress in your life, a life coach can show you how to reduce stress and teach you how to manage unavoidable stress.

Goal Setting

Another area you may not think about hiring a life coach for is to help you with goal setting. A life coach can help you set reasonable and attainable goals in both your personal and business life. They can also help you to stay on track in reaching your goals by steering you in the right direction or helping you get back on track when you veer off.

Life Changes

Stuff happens throughout our lives and changes can be a major cause of stress and even depression in some people. Hiring a life coach when you’re facing a change can help make the transition go more smoothly and a lot less stressful.

Be sure to check out all of the ways a life coach can help you at Real Life Coaching. There are many more ways a life coach can help you be more successful in your personal life and your business life, such as: communicating effectively with others, discover your vision for your life, and live an emotionally and physically healthy life.

Aurelia Williams, certified Personal Life Coach and owner of Real Life Coaching, invites you to take advantage of a free consultation today.

Top Internet Business Ideas

June 15, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Working From Home No Comments →

The Internet offers many business opportunities. You can become a part of someone else’s enterprise or create a business of your own. There are many advantages to starting an Internet business. Here are the top Internet business ideas to help you find that appropriate niche you are looking for.

Every day people search the Internet for all sorts of opportunities. With this economy, the number one search is for ways to make money with low startup costs. Many of the basic equipment needed to begin Internet businesses are in your home right now. If you have a computer with a high-speed Internet connection, a telephone, a desk, and a printer, you can get going right away.

1. Blogging. This is the way to create an online presence without the technical issues of owning your own website (that comes later). Most blogs are offered with free hosting and come with already installed features so set up is easy. Blog about anything that you find interesting and will be interesting to other readers. A blog with a niche will perform better a personal one. Blogs can also make money with programs like Google Adwords and AdSense. Pay per Click advertising also works for generating revenue.

2. Internet research. Anyone who can navigate the Internet and find out almost anything, can market themselves as an Internet researcher. Large and small companies will pay you to find out information for them, create reports from the research.

3. Selling products. If you have a hobby like making and selling crafts you can expand your business online with a website. Set up a website that caters to your product offerings. Market these products online to drive traffic to your website.

4. Selling on eBay. With this idea, you set up shop on the Internet. You can sell products you created or items you own that you want to sell. Many now make a living selling on eBay. As your business grows, you can expand to involve other product markets.

5. Freelancing. Many online and offline businesses are looking for help. Freelancers lower the overhead of the company thus becoming more profitable for many jobs than hiring someone to work in the office. Depending on your talent, hire yourself out at a freelance writer, graphic artist, website designer or programmer.

6. Virtual assistant. Virtual assistants are the going trend for many businesses. In the beginning, virtual assistants performed the administrative duties of a company from their home. Now, VA’s can be found in all career specialties like medical, real estate, marketing and publishing. They perform tasks above administrative such as website administrator, report creation and Internet research.

7. Membership sites. You see more of these around these days. With a membership site, you choose a niche, such as online marketing. Customers pay to join at a certain level (gold, silver, bronze) and are rewarded with certain perks for their membership that include newsletters, videos or articles on marketing and services to help expand their own business. You create the website and supply the materials yourself or through outsourcing each month to your members.

Do you have an idea of what your Internet business idea might be? This list should get you started.

Childproofing Your Home

June 12, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children No Comments →

You know what? Being a parent isn’t an easy task. Oh, it starts out easy enough because the newborn is helpless and can’t get into much trouble. As they grow older, however, your job gets more difficult. You have to work at keeping one step ahead of your child by childproofing your home to keep them safe.

Of course you want to keep your child safe, so when do you begin the process? What can you do to childproof your home?

Basically, you want to begin childproofing your home prior to bringing the baby home from the hospital. That may seem unnecessary since the baby can’t do anything at this point but sleep and eat, but you’ll be glad you did once your bundle of joy becomes mobile. These early changes may make a big difference in the not too distant future.

Purchase outlet covers for every room in the house, being sure to cover any unused outlet. This one action could save your child from being electrocuted because they have such small fingers and will use them to explore any hole their fingers will fit in.

Install doorknob covers on any door that leads to the outside or any area that is not childproofed. If you prefer to leave doors open in your home, purchase the door guards that will not allow tiny fingers to be caught in a door that accidentally closes.

Keep the bassinette, crib, or changing table away from windows. Make sure you install the hardware to keep the blind cords out of the baby’s reach if you do place these items near windows. While you’re there, install window guards that will keep a child from falling out an open window.

Install safety catches on cabinet doors and drawers to keep little ones from getting to things they shouldn’t. Store medicines and hazardous cleaning materials in areas that are high up out of reach, if possible, to ensure your child’s safety.

Purchase a cordless phone. This will enable you to keep an eye on your child wherever they are because you can take the phone with you.

Smoke alarms should be installed on each floor, the kitchen, the utility area, and outside all bedrooms. Be sure to change the batteries every six months, or when daylight savings time changes.

Use safety gates at all staircases and in doorways to keep your child in or out of a particular room. If possible, use the one that screws to the wall rather than using tension to keep it in place.

Put covers, or anti-scald devices, on any faucet or shower head that the child may have access to. Also, reduce the temperature of your water heater to 120 degrees. The anti-scald device may have to be installed by a professional plumber, but the cost will give you peace of mind that is priceless.

Put corner and edge guards around furniture or hearth edges with sharp or rough edges. These will help prevent serious injury when your child begins the toddler stage.

While having and installing these safety items won’t guarantee there will be no injuries in your home, they will go a long way in helping to keep the injuries to a minimum. Childproofing your home will help keep your precious one safer and give you peace of mind that you’re doing all you can.