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Beauty on a Budget

March 28, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Healthy Living 1 Comment →

Tips and Tricks for Looking Your Best for Less

Feeling fabulous is something all women crave. But tough economic times can bring cutbacks in all areas of life. Luckily, your daily beauty routine doesn’t have to suffer. You can still feel great from the inside out without spending a fortune. Try these tips to get beauty luxury for less.

Tip 1: Grab your gal pals for some pampering — at home! No matter how well you paint your nails, they never seem quite a good as when someone else does it. Don’t run to get a pro manicure though. Instead gather your female friends and swap painting skills while you spend some quality time together.

Whether just two people or an entire party, invite others to bring their favorite colors to share. You might find a new fun shade, plus you’ll get that smooth paint coat that only someone else’s steady hand can provide.

Tip 2: Look for new advances in the health and beauty aisle.

Advances in skin care technology are providing women with products that multitask so you can have healthy looking skin. You can skip the expensive brands and often find what you’re looking for simply by walking down the health and beauty aisle at your local retail store.

Want an affordable body care product that leaves your skin looking and feeling great? Try new Olay Body Wash plus Tone Enriching Ribbons, the first-ever body wash to add a ribbon of mineral shimmer, and it decreases the appearance of uneven tone and discolorations. The best part is it works after just one use. So you can easily provide your skin with the hydration it needs to stay smooth and healthy looking with the subtle sheen you desire to make your skin look radiant.

Tip 3: Skip costly professional tooth-whitening.

A bright, sparkling smile can make anyone feel more confident. But the dentist bill for professional cleaning and whitening can be costly. You’ve probably seen at-home whitening kits and wondered if and how they work. With a variety of affordable, at-home options you’re sure to find one that brightens your teeth without weighing down your wallet.

Many whitening kits contain a disposable strip. This can be found as a quick daily dose or a week long treatment, both using a thin piece of disposable plastic. There is even a new version that seals tightly against teeth allowing you to talk and even drink water while you whiten. If you are looking for an easy way to maintain the color you have and simply remove topical staining, mouth wash options now include whitening agents as well.

Tip 4: For a fresh cut, consider beauticians in training.

Don’t want to spend $100 getting your hair cut and dyed? You’re not alone. One option that is growing in popularity is to use a student beautician. Visit a cosmetology school in your area where students are training in their profession.

If it sounds a little scary, don’t worry. Students are supervised by professionals who can answer any questions that might arise. And of course, the cost can be less than half of what you would pay at a salon. Keep in mind, some schools might offer other services such as pedicures and massages, so you can indulge in a wallet-friendly way.

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Simple Ways to Nurture Your Child’s Positive Body Image

March 26, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Uncategorized 1 Comment →

(ARA) – With spring around the corner, kids, tweens and teens across the country will doff sweaters for tank tops and jeans for shorts. And as a parent, you may feel more conscious than ever of our society’s preoccupation with body image and how it affects your child.

Just as concerning as the rise in childhood obesity is the rising number of children — even very young children — who are obsessed with being thin.

“We see children as young as 6 years old complaining that their stomachs stick out, or bragging about having the chicken pox because it means going to bed without dinner, which means fewer calories,” says Carolyn Costin, director of The Eating Disorder Center of California and the Monte Nido Treatment Center. “Kids see their moms and dads dieting and they want to diet too, even if they don’t need to.”

While not every child dissatisfied with his or her appearance will develop an eating disorder like bulimia or anorexia nervosa, a poor body image can have a serious, long-term impact on a child’s emotional well-being. So how do you help your daughter or son develop a healthy, realistic body image in a society obsessed with thin and beautiful?

Know the Signs of a Problem

First, parents need to be able to recognize when their child might have a serious problem. While the majority of young people with eating disorders are female, health professionals are seeing a rise in the number of boys and young men suffering from eating disorders and poor body image.

Your child may have a problem if he or she:

* Believes if you aren’t thin you aren’t attractive.
* Thinks being thin is more important than being healthy.
* Does anything to make themselves appear thinner — buying clothes, cutting their hair, taking laxatives or starving themselves.
* Feels guilty after eating or punishes herself after eating fattening foods.
* Counts calories and severely restricts calorie intake.
* Is obsessed with weighing himself daily or sometimes multiple times each day.
* Believes you can never be too thin.
* Thinks that being thin and not eating are signs of will power and success.

How to Foster a Healthier Body Image

The single most important way parents can help their children develop a healthy body image is to lead by example, Costin says. Children who hear their parents criticize themselves for being too fat will be more likely to think poorly of their own bodies.

“Avoid saying negative things about your own or other people’s bodies, and work hard at promoting healthy body esteem,” she says. “This may be difficult, especially if your own mother was not a good role model of a healthy body image.”

If you suspect your own body image and habits are not providing a healthful role model for your child, ask yourself if you would want her to imitate your dietary and exercise habits or self-image. Would you send her off in the morning with nothing but a cup of coffee? Would you tell him to have a bad day if he gets on the scale and has gained a pound? “Your answers may surprise you,” Costin says.

Help children find constructive ways to be healthy, including maintaining a good diet and regular physical activity. Share healthful pursuits, such as learning to cook nutritious meals together, with your child. But be sure to go out for ice cream too; balance is the key. Help with and praise creative endeavors, and applaud small but meaningful internal accomplishments, like her ability to remain calm, his quick wit, his sense of humor, her empathy for others.

Stay alert to changes in eating habits and body image and be prepared to intervene. Parents need to actively help their children find constructive ways to feel successful, accomplish something and earn the respect, attention and admiration so important to teens.

If you suspect your child has an eating disorder, seek help immediately. Log on to or to learn more.

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Springtime 30% Off Special For You

March 25, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Parenting, Teenagers No Comments →

I am really enjoying the 1st full week of Spring and I hope you are too. I will be spending the beginning of the week at home with the kids (who are on Spring break) then my husband and I are packing up and headed to New Orleans for a fun extended weekend.

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Dealing with Sibling Rivalry

March 24, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children, Parenting No Comments →

Some children are naturally more competitive than others – until it comes to siblings.  It seems that in every family where there is more than one child there is some form of sibling rivalry.  The competitive spirit can be good at times but at other times it can get out of control.  It is important to take measures to help keep sibling rivalry at a healthy minimum.  Here are some useful tips to stop the rivalry getting out of control.

1.  Set aside time to spend with each sibling on a one-to-one basis.  Make the special time about that one child.  Let him choose the place that you go or the thing that you do.  Make the one-on-one time something that does require talking (no movies for this).  The idea is to create a bond with the child while giving him the chance to feel like the center of your world.

2.  Remind each child that he or she is an individual and gifts and talents are unique to each of us.  Focus on her talents and gifts and encourage her to follow those instead of the footsteps of older siblings (or even parents).

3.  Spend non-competitive time as a family.  Playing games and sports together is great, but there should be some relaxed time as well.  Go hang out at the zoo or tour the botanical gardens.  Just have some fun that doesn’t require competition (but watch them; siblings have a way of creating competition when you aren’t looking).

4.  Avoid using statements that compare one sibling to another.  Instead of making a comment like “when your brother was your age” or “if you would just work like your sister does”, you should focus on the positives of the sibling you are talking with.  “You are doing so much better this year with your school work.”  “You are working so much harder to get your chores done and I can tell a big difference.”  Just keep siblings out of the comments altogether.

5.  Take the time to support each child in activities and events on an equal basis.  If one is more involved than another, then find other ways to support the one who has the least activities.
6.  Keep an open dialogue with all siblings.  You can better judge the temperature of the water and get a handle on any problems before they can get out of hand.

7.  Set the rules BEFORE the children come along.  Determine at what age children will be eligible for allowance, sleepovers, and other important events.  Set a spending limit for birthdays and holidays (and raise it and allowances by set increments).  Having rules in place that are followed for each child will help to reduce the whine of “well HE got to do it before now” or “SHE got more than I did.”

Sibling rivalry seems to be a natural element in any home with more than one child.  Although it may not be possible to eliminate the competitive spirit between siblings, it may be possible to reduce the sibling rivalry (particularly when it comes to the relationship with parents).

Spring Activities

March 22, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Just for Fun, Parenting No Comments →

Springtime is a great time to spend the weekends doing things together as a family. Not only does the warmer weather encourage everyone to get outside, it will also help everyone feel more like exercising after a long winter cooped up inside. Use some of these ideas of springtime activities for the whole family to enjoy.

New life abounds outside. There are trees budding and flowers blooming everywhere you look. This is the perfect time to start planning a garden to supply your family with fresh vegetables during the summer and fall months.

Begin by starting seeds of any vegetables you want inside and then transplant them into your prepared garden when the threat of frost has passed. Mark off the garden to indicate where you want each type of plant to be planted. Or you can choose to plant your garden using the square foot plan, where you create a grid and plant in those squares. Whichever plan you choose for your garden, now is the time to think about and plan for it.

Take the time to enjoy the outside and have fun at the same time. Let your inner child out as you and your children blow bubbles with home-made bubble solution. Here’s how you make it:  Put ¼ cup of corn syrup in a bowl. Add 4 cups of water followed by 1 cup of liquid dish soap. Stir well. You can use a wire coat hanger, pipe cleaners, or jewelry wire to make a bubble wand. Now take time to enjoy making bubbles with your children.

If each member of your family has a bicycle, why not take them out, clean them up, and then go for a bike ride? This family activity is great exercise and will help you get the kinks out of your body after being indoors. You may want to have one adult up front and one following behind the group for safety.

Go for a hike and look for signs of spring. You will probably find crocus, daffodils, and violets along with other native flowers. Don’t be surprised if you also find ladybugs, bees, and wasps. You might even find some small frogs or toads along the way if you’re near water.

Springtime is also a great time to go to the nearest zoo. Many animals have their young during the spring, so you may see some babies while you’re there. Take the time to see if the zoo has a website so you know what the layout of the zoo is, where your family’s favorite animals are housed, and where the restrooms and food pavilions are.

Finally, you can always go fly a kite. Springtime winds are usually perfect for kite flying. You can purchase kites for less than $10, often much less than that. Find an open field, a breezy day, and then let the kites fly. Don’t be surprised if younger children are mesmerized by the kites as they soar through the air.

Be honest, the warmer weather of springtime is beckoning you to go outside and have some fun! Use any of these springtime activities for the whole family, or come up with some ideas of your own. After being indoors all winter long, your whole family will enjoy spending some quality time together outdoors.

What Is Earth Day

March 18, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Healthy Living No Comments →

Earth Day:  Celebrate Awareness and Appreciation of the Earth
Every year people all over the world observe Earth Day. Celebrate awareness and appreciation of the earth by using any of these ideas. They may help you plan your own Earth Day festivities.

Earth Day began on April 22 more than 30 years ago when Senator Gaylord Nelson decided that it was important to teach everyone, especially children, about our environment. He wanted to be sure that people understood how important it was to take care of our planet.

Since the first Earth Day in 1970, there have been millions celebrating this date by helping to clean up their communities, watching or listening to speeches about the environment, and learning more about living green.  Here are some other ideas for celebrating awareness and appreciation for the planet we call home.

* Learn about global warming and what you can do to fight it. You can find information about global warming at libraries or online. Both places will be able to give you ideas of what you can do today to help reduce the problem of global warming tomorrow.

* Protect endangered animals. Endangered animals live all over the Earth, but unfortunately mankind hasn’t always dealt with or cared for animals well. In fact, many more animals are endangered now but there’s something we can do about it. We can use our resources to help create endangered wildlife refuges. You can contact endangered animal organizations to see what else you can do to help.

* Recycling is another way to take care of the Earth, and it’s something you can do every day. You may be familiar with the phrase “Reduce, Reuse, Recycle.” This is a great way to include everyone in your family when you celebrate awareness and appreciation of the Earth on Earth Day.

* Plant a tree in your yard. You can also contact a local city park and find out if you can purchase a tree to be placed there for everyone in your community to enjoy.

* Support local and downtown businesses. If you purchase items at local businesses, there will be less need for your city to expand. This can actually limit the amount of open land that’s used for housing or industrial buildings.

* Refuse to use chemicals – on your garden and in your home. Buying natural products helps reduce the build-up of chemicals in our homes and on the foods we eat. There are many natural products you can find for cleaning. There are also natural products for gardening. Look at your local discount and home improvement store to find one that will work for you.

Earth Day may only come once a year, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be aware of and appreciate the Earth all year long. Do whatever you can to help the environment. Learn ways to recycle items around your home, reuse items in a new way, or decide not to buy an item. Each of these ways will help you celebrate Earth Day every day of the year.

Must-Have Spring Fashions for Moms

March 14, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Just for Fun 1 Comment →

Being a mom doesn’t mean you have to give up your sense of style.  While you might not opt for the miniskirts that you wore in your pre-parenting days, there are plenty of spring fashions that are perfect for moms.  Here are some styles that are hot this season:

Metallic Fabrics

Metallics are eye-catching, and they can be paired with a variety of colors.  Accessories and outerwear in metallic fabrics are great for adding life to your wardrobe.  Best of all, many metallic pieces can go from casual to formal in a snap.

Metallic purses are especially versatile.  Many of them can be converted from shoulder bags to clutches, eliminating the need to change purses for different looks.  Some even have removable handles for added versatility.  And it’s not necessary to pay big bucks for them.  You can find designer-inspired bags at a fraction of the cost in many discount stores.

Splashes of Color

Neutrals are popular this spring, but they are often paired with bright or colorful accessories.  If you don’t feel that bright colors are flattering on you, using them sparingly can make your outfit pop without being “too much”.

Jewelry, hair accessories, belts, tote bags, and shoes are good places to start if you want to inject a little color into your wardrobe.  Neutral dresses with bright floral accents are also good for adding just the right amount of color.  And if you feel comfortable in them, all-over brights are popular as well.

Ethnic Prints and Accents

Styles inspired by safari wear, the Far East, and other global customs add interest to spring fashion.  There are a variety of ways you could incorporate this into your wardrobe.

If you want to be bold, you could choose an entire ensemble based on an ethnic theme.  An ethnic shirt or dress with neutral pants, shoes, and accessories is also stunning.  Or you could choose to use some eye-catching ethnic accessories to complement tamer clothing.

Trendy Diaper Bags

Moms with younger kids have lots of attractive diaper bag options these days.  More and more of them are being designed with Mom’s fashion sense in mind.  Designer diaper bags offer a lot in the way of luxury, but there are also fashionable bags available that do not cost as much.

Patent is hot this spring, and it works nicely for diaper bags because it’s easy to keep clean.  Bright floral prints are also nice for carrying the little one’s necessities.  If you can’t find a diaper bag that suits your tastes, consider a roomy tote bag as an alternative.

Moms have lots of options when it comes to spring fashion.  Many of the latest styles come in fabrics that are comfortable, durable, and easy to care for.  This gives moms the opportunity to enjoy both style and comfort every day.

How to deal with a childs temper tantrum

March 12, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children 1 Comment →

Ahhh the joys of parenting.  Most parents have witnessed their little bundles of joy in the throws of a temper tantrum.  Even the most dignified parent has been left red-faced and wanting to be swallowed into the ground while their toddler is having a public meltdown.

Here are a few easy ideas for avoiding temper tantrums:

Don’t Let Your Child Get Over Tired – Don’t let your child become too tired.  Set a regular nap routine and try to stick to it, and make sure your child goes to bed at a reasonable time and gets enough sleep during the night.  Tiredness is often the first reason for a tantrum. 

Give Them Time – Allow enough time for activities like getting dressed, brushing their hair and getting in and out of the car.  Your child will want to do a lot of these things on his own and rushing him is a sure way to start a tantrum.  Give him a little extra time and let him try to be independent by allowing him to do certain things for himself.

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Here’s How To Add Some Fun Into Your Day

March 10, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Stress Management 1 Comment →

Ever Get Grumpy? Read This & Add Some FUN Into Your Day 

As busy moms, I am sure there are times when you get a tad grumpy. Admit it, we all do (smile).


Well, here are a few fun tips that you can incorporated into your life:

Make a *FUN* list. Make a list of the current activities or hobbies that bring enjoyment to your life.  Also be sure to include the hobbies or activities that you have never tried but you think would be fun.   Work to pick one item off of your Fun List and do it ASAP.

Get together with some girlfriends. One of the best ways to rediscover yourself is to spend some time with your girlfriends each week. Have lunch together, go to the movies to watch the latest chick flick, or plan a girl’s night out every once in a while.

Pamper Yourself. Do something every month to pamper yourself. Go et a new haircut. Visit your favorite nail saloon for a manicure, pedicure or to get your nails done. Call your favorite day spa and schedule a facial. Get a massage.  You can even do some inexpensive things at home after the children have gone to bed.  Light some candles and enjoy a  quiet bubble bath.

Don’t feel guilty about taking time for yourself a few times a week. Your kids will appreciate it when they get a balanced and fun mom in return. You will be more relaxed, happier and actually be able to enjoy your family. After all, that’s why you had kids in the first place, isn’t it?


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Chores for children

March 08, 2009 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children 2 Comments →

I know that many mom’s dread trying to get their children involved in doing some household chores and it can be a never ending battle. Well, I am here with a few tips and insight on this matter that hopefully will make the weekend chores go a bit more smoothly.

Many of us have chores that must be done on the weekend and with a little incentive and the right attitude, you can get your child happily involved in them (Ok, well maybe not happily, but involved). Even young toddlers can play a significant role in participating in household chores. Your children can help separate the laundry, sweep the kitchen, dust off furniture and even help prepare meals.

Explain to your children that chore time can be family time. You can turn on the music in your home, assign the household members a task and get busy. For children, they feel a sense of ownership and accomplishment and for the parents we now don’t have to do it all on our own and we can relish in the fact that our children are being responsible.

Be sure to limit the number of chores that you assign to your children and try to build in some fun into the process or offer small rewards for a job well done.

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Be sure to check out my friend, Nicole Dean’s awesome article titled Chaos, Children and Chores.