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How to Conquer Your Fears

September 29, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Healthy Living, Uncategorized No Comments →

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by fear – so much so that it prevented you from doing something you wanted to do? Believe it or not, this is a common problem faced by many people daily.

Fear has the power to hold you back from taking risks, following your dreams, or becoming successful at anything you attempt to do. If you allow it to control you for long enough, it can eventually erode your quality of life and keep you locked in a prison of inactivity.

What many people fail to realize is that fear is nothing more than a conditioned response. It’s a natural reaction to a frightening or unfamiliar situation. While it is usually automatic, there are things you can do to overcome it.

1) Check your expectations.

One major contributor of fear is the prevalence of negative expectations. Do you usually find yourself expecting the worst in every situation? Do you worry obsessively about what could go wrong, rather than focusing on your strengths and capabilities?

If you make a conscious effort to expect the best, see the positive side of each situation and keep reminding yourself that you can handle more than you often think, you’ll find yourself with much less fear to deal with. Even if feelings of fear do manage to creep into your consciousness, you’ll still be able to keep them in perspective and balance them against an underlying sense of confidence.

2) Discredit your fears.

Experts will tell you that the majority of things you fear will never come to pass anyway. While this may be true, it sure doesn’t feel that way when fear has a chokehold on you! However, if you look a little more closely at your fears when they arise, you may be able to dismiss at least a few.

For example, if you have a fear of public speaking and your boss wants you to give a presentation at work, you might feel like your life (and perhaps your livelihood) is on the line. You may fear getting fired, or worry that your colleagues will lose respect for you if you don’t do a good job.

But is any of this likely to happen? In most cases, no. Rather than worrying about what “might” happen if you don’t give a solid presentation, you might brainstorm ways to help improve your performance, such as being well prepared, practicing your delivery on friends and family members, writing notes to yourself and so on.

3) Do the very thing you fear.

When you remember that fear is simply a feeling, it loses much of its power. It can’t harm you and except in truly threatening situations you can choose to ignore it and move forward anyway.

If you weigh the pros and cons in any situation, you may decide that the possibility of negative consequences is minimal so there’s nothing to stop you from ignoring your fear and going for it! This will be determined by you on a case by case basis, of course. The point isn’t to become reckless with your decision-making but rather to empower yourself to know when a fear is groundless and easily overcome.

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Ending The Chore War

September 28, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children, Goals No Comments →

I know that many moms dread trying to get their children involved in doing some household chores and it can be a never ending battle. Well, I am here with a few tips and insight on this matter that hopefully will make the weekend chores go a bit more smoothly.

Many of us have chores that must be done on the weekend and with a little incentive and the right attitude, you can get your child happily involved in them (Ok, well maybe not happily, but involved). Even young toddlers can play a significant role in participating in household chores. Your children can help separate the laundry, sweep the kitchen, dust off furniture and even help prepare meals.

Explain to your children that chore time can be family time. You can turn on the music in your home, assign the household members a task and get busy. For children, they feel a sense of ownership and accomplishment and for the parents we now don’t have to do it all on our own and we can relish in the fact that our children are being responsible.

Be sure to limit the number of chores that you assign to your children and try to build in some fun into the process or offer small rewards for a job well done.

Be sure to check out my friend, Nicole Dean’s awesome article titled ‘Chaos, Children and Chores’ for more wonderful information http://www.reallifesolutions.net/family/chores.html

 

P.S. Grab more free parenting tips here: http://www.reallifesolutions.net/family/parenting.html

I’m Freezin’ And Lovin’ It

September 27, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children, Organization No Comments →

Well I am not the one that is actually freezing but I am the one doing the freezing.

I just wanted to tell you about this awesome new ebook ‘Freezing It & Loving It’ .

By now, you know just how much I love to stay organized, use a meal plan and I am a huge fan of implementing kitchen time savers and this guide is wonderful. Not only does it explain how to prepare meals ahead of time, so that each evening all you’ll need to do is bake or warm your (already prepared) main dish, perhaps toss a fresh salad or cook a vegetable, or maybe add some bread, but it also comes with the following:

– a sample meal plan with a complete shopping list

– detailed step by step to do lists for ‘cooking day’ and for each day of the week to follow.

– an ‘easy to print’ 32 page recipe guide to compliment every meal idea outlined in our Freezing It & Loving It guidebook.

This would make a great addition to any kitchen and also would work wonderfully as a gift to someone across the miles :)

How many times have you stood in front of the fridge with the kids behind you hungry and you WISHED that you could just pop something in the microwave or the oven. Well, here is your chance Mom! Stop by and read more about
Freezing It & Loving It
.

Hey, I almost forgot to mention the best part. You can take up to 30 days to review this guide. If you’re not completely satisfied with this guide, they will give you your money back. No questions asked. So that makes this offer totally Risk Free! (Music to a busy Moms ears)

Take Care and Enjoy!

Importance Of Afterschool Daycare Curriculum

September 26, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children No Comments →

After school activities are the rage of the day but the importance of an appropriate daycare curriculum to structure these activities shouldn’t be underestimated. It is impossible to ignore the growing popularity of these after school programs which cater for more than 10 million kids in the US and receive millions in funding.  Everyone understands the need to develop new skills, gain more knowledge and keep the children safe when parents are working.

Healthy relationships between the children attending the after school and the adults running the program are key to success. Often, children may confide in an adult member who is in the unique position of being neither parent nor teacher. These kids are growing and changing and this type of positive emotional interaction is vital in helping them deal with personal issues.

These ‘out of the normal category’ adults can have a profoundly positive impact on children. Their wisdom, insight and experience will doubtless impress the children. The mentors in these after school programs serve as role models and can directly and indirectly pass on a multitude of knowledge and wisdom to the kids. Their unique position enables them to build the kind of relationships that will result in the kids drawing inspiration from their mentors.

After school activities that are managed professionally by people who are successful in their own fields of expertise will produce children who are more enthusiastic and successful. Meaningful interaction with adults is a learning experience in itself. Most after
school activities can be broadly classified into three – recreational, educational and society-oriented. The last bit usually comes in when the child is already a bit grown up and can voice his own interests.

Educational activities aim at furthering the knowledge of the child.  His general awareness, his understanding and his memory are targeted and he is given various techniques that will help him improve one or all of these. Programs such as intensive memory training and speed mathematics are educational after school activities. There are
academic programs that will go over the child’s homework and class work and help the child gain more in-depth knowledge in the various subjects. Thus academic programs have a definite edge over the fun and games, especially if parents feel that their child has a lot of catching up to do.

Fine arts, sports, physical games, board games etc and painting are included in recreational activities. The main thrust here is to have fun. Inevitably a competitive element will appear as children become more proficient. Many sport events, competitions,
stage performances etc are held to encourage the child.

Recreational programs often appear to offer more in terms of a holistic approach to the child’s development. Firstly, children do not enjoy learning unless they themselves feel curious about something. A lack of flexibility in academic activity based programs can be a problem. They have a general purpose and a well laid out methodology. However, a child who has already spent a day at school may have issues with concentration. Further study may overwhelm him and make him feel frustrated. Overexposing a child to educational
activities may cause him to switch off.

Conventional academic learning is tiring and somewhat monotonous so a recreational program gives children a break, a change of routine. Physical activity and being outdoors in the fresh air energizes children and instils in them a wonderful sense of wellbeing.
Patience, discipline and social interaction skills are learned through working in a team. Children who take part in such activities tend to get good results at school and are better all rounders. You need that break from the books in order to remain fresh and a fun game can often be what is needed.

Consistent, thorough evaluation is vital regardless what after school program you choose for your day care. You will have to measure the children’s progress.  Your daycare curriculum may need modification if progress is not satisfactory. . The child should also have the freedom to reject an activity if and when he feels bored with it. The perfect daycare curriculum combines a balance of both recreational and academic so that children are challenged at every level. This way, children can have fun while they learn.

Find out about childcare from Fiona Lohrenz who has run her own day care for the past 10 years. She incorporates all that knowledge into her website and her ‘Start a Day Care Business’ DVD guide: —>  How To Start A Daycare

Choosing the Right Afterschool Activities for your Child

September 24, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children No Comments →

What happens after school is equally as important as what takes place during the school day. It’s important that you and your child choose the right after school activities.  Obviously as the parent, you’ll be the one making the decisions.  However if you can include your child in the process, you’ll have better buy-in.

If your child has sports practice, dance lessons or choir practice, there will be other adults present.  That’s a good thing.  Dropping your child off at the mall isn’t such a good idea.  If children have nothing to do, the potential for trouble is much higher. 

Walking around the mall isn’t really considered, “something to do.”  If you want to go to the mall with your child, that’s great. What I’m referring to is your child taking the bus or getting dropped off, without an adult there to accompany her.

One third of shoplifters apprehended are teens age 13-17. Not suggesting that all teens are out to shoplift, just merely that the opportunity is greater when kids are wandering the mall un-chaperoned, with nothing to do. 

Another not so hot idea is dropping your child off at a movie theater.  Unless you’ve seen the movie he wants to see, you haven’t approved the content.  Besides there are much better things your child could do with his time that sit and watch a movie.

If they want to go to a friend’s house after school, make sure an adult will be present.  By “making sure” I don’t mean asking your child if the friend’s parent will be home.  Get a home phone number (not a cell phone number) and talk to the mother.  You’d be surprised at the number of times the other parent didn’t even know the children were planning to be together.

Many schools now have after school care which basically means your child can stay at school until you can pick her up.  This gives them a chance to get homework done and play in the gym, in the presence of an adult.

Children grow up way too fast.  Make sure they are using their time wisely.  Remember, they are our future generation!

A Free Be a Great Mama Guide

September 23, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children, Parenting No Comments →

Hurray! Our Latest Completely Free,
No Strings Attached Guide is Here!

Do you ever feel like you’re next in line for the ‘Bad Mom of the Year’ award?

You’re not alone. I’ve never met a mom who didn’t feel like they’ve let their kids down a few times. We’re only human after all. Having kids don’t make us perfect much as we might hope otherwise ;)

Be a Great Mama is a packed 29 page guide with advice and creative ideas for being the best mom you can be.

PLUS it has been loaded up with real life stories from brave moms who are willing to admit that they’ve made mistakes too.

Monday Motivation

September 22, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Goals, Mommy Rambles, Organization 1 Comment →

What an awesome weekend!  I spent Saturday with the kids running errands and then we hit a community fair and yesterday I met as friend for Movie and Lunch yesterday. We saw Righteous Kill (Al Pachino and Robert DiNero) and had a great time.

Here we are on Monday and its time to get back to the “Real World”  As always, the 1st step I take in organizing my week is to carve  some time out to get cozy with my BlackBerry on Sunday evenings and review the upcoming week and add in my appointments as needed.  I’m an lean mean organizing machine and I find that if I take a look at EACH day of the upcoming week and make sure to move items around so that they aren’t all piled up on one day — it makes my week much more manageable.  Also, the fact that I love to outsource (both at home and within my online businesses) makes it great.

On my list of things to accomplish this week are:

  1. Monday – Re-connect with my awesome VA and be sure that we are on the same page.  She emails me each Friday with her list of things that she has completed and I always use Mondays to reconnect with her and check my list – and be sure that she has room for me (smile).   
  2. Monday - Have you seen the new look at Parenting My Teen lately? Well a new show airs today and I will be sure to send an email out to my list letting them know they  I have some “ear candy” for for them .      
  3. Tuesday - Hit the grocery store (I love to grocery shop)  and I shop every OR every other Tuesday.  I created my meal plan on Saturday and I already have all the fixins for this week but I make a weekly Tuesday trip to the grocery store using the coupons and ideas I get out of the Sunday paper.
  4. Wednesday - I’ve declared Wednesdays content and guest blog days.  I will spent time adding content to my Real Life Solutions site and posting to all of the awesome guest blogs that I belong to. 
  5. Thursday – Coaching the Elementary School Girls On The Run Team.   I have a team of 15 3rd – 6th graders and we are training to run a 5K in December :)

Daily:

  1. Dont go to be bed mad or with a dirty kitchen
  2. Wipe the bathroom sinks down with a Clorox Wipe before leaving out of the house each morning
  3. Pick Isreal up from Softball Practice
  4. Smile, Meditate and Pray

Every Monday & Tuesday

  1. Get Isaac off to Tae Kwon Do

Bus Stop Safety Tips

September 22, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Children No Comments →

All parents whose children take the bus to school want to ensure they will arrive safely.  However, there can be times when safety becomes an issue, especially at bus stops.  Here are some tips to guarantee your child will be safe not only walking to the bus stop but before and after the bus arrives.

* Children should be told not to run to catch any bus.  Leaving early will avoid missing the bus and any chance of a child falling because they are in a hurry.
* Stay well away from the curb when standing at a bus stop.
* When walking to the bus stop with other children, do not play or run around in the street.
* All children under 12 should be accompanied by another adult or older sibling when walking to the bus stop.  In addition, waiting with the child until they safely board the school bus is recommended.
* Children should be told not to talk to any strangers at the bus stop. 
* Children should be warned that if anyone in a car stops and calls them over, they should run away screaming. 
* Children who are approached by anyone for any reason should report the incident to the bus driver. 
* Children should be told not to shove other kids onto the bus.  Board the bus slowly and in a single file. 

The fact that schools do not take responsibility until the moment the children boards the school bus is a major factor in ensuring the child is safe before arriving to school.  In addition, in some states where children are picked up by school buses, care has to be taken to avoid any injury to the child. 

Oftentimes buses stop in the middle of a street, double-park, or stop away from a child’s home.  Children should be told to look both ways before boarding the bus in these instances since some school buses have the automated stop sign which signal other vehicles to stop, and others do not. 

These bus safety tips are just some ways in which children need to be made aware of situations which may occur when waiting for the school bus to arrive.

Smart Grocery Shopping Strategies

September 20, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Healthy Living, Organization, Uncategorized No Comments →

Grocery shopping is a chore most of us dread. It can be especially frustrating once you get home and realize you forgot to get an item or you neglected to give the clerk your coupon for that great buy one get one for free deal. You organize every other aspect of your life, so focus that organizational discipline towards your grocery shopping efforts as well.

Start by planning your shopping trips. In order to make a list of what you’ll need for meals that week, you’ll also need to get into the habit of planning your meals out each week. Choose a day of the week to do your shopping and stick to it. If you do your grocery shopping on Wednesdays when the ads break, be sure your menu planning is completed on Tuesday. Once you’ve completed your menu, you can construct your shopping list.

It’s also important to take a current inventory of your pantry and cupboards, and add any staples that are running low. It’s easy to forget that you used the last can of mushroom soup in that new recipe you tried, so make sure you have a couple of other cans on hand when you make it again.

Keep a shopping list posted to your bulletin board or refrigerator, and be sure each family member knows where it is located. That way they can easily add an item to the list that is almost gone or request a favorite item on the next trip.

There are printable grocery shopping lists on the internet, but you might want to consider devising one of your own and saving it on your computer so it can easily be printed each week. Leave room on your list to flag yourself about which items are listed for sale and which ones you have coupons for. Make sure your coupons are organized and in order and that you have a copy of the current ad in case there are any discrepancies once you get there. Come armed with calculator in hand to avoid suffering from sticker shock at the checkout register.

You can save hundreds each year on your groceries just by meal planning! For a step by step guide, check out Meal Planning For Busy Moms.

Happiness, Self Confidence, Fulfillment

September 18, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Goals, Healthy Living, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management No Comments →

We all seek more of these things or know a woman who does.

Built on the principle that every woman deserves happiness, Journey to Joy is an inspiring 46 page eBook that will help you or a woman in your life, explore and overcome the many obstacles that keep happiness at bay. 

Those obstacles will weaken a woman’s overall perception of herself, which affects not only her, but those around her as well.  Her husband, children, other family members, friends, colleagues, and others.

Every woman has the tools inside her to create a life filled with peace and joy.  Discontentment is not what life was created for.  We are not born to be unhappy, so why spend life believing you were?  Let Journey to Joy show you how to overcome those beliefs.

This eBook provides women with various tips and resources to help them realize they are important.  Offering specific action steps and worksheets at the end of each chapter, Journey to Joy gives women exactly what they need to rise above the ‘down in the dumps’ feelings and negativity in their lives. 

Why wait?  Start the Journey to Joy today.  As a thank you we’ve thrown in a free bonus audio, “Balancing Your Life”, to help you along your way to a more balanced life.