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Parenting Teenagers: Tips On Starting High School

July 31, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Uncategorized 1 Comment →

Teenagers all over the world will take the leap from child to young adult this fall. They will be entering High School for the first time. This milestone brings a variety of feelings and emotions. They are beginning four of the most difficult, yet most memorable years of their life. If you think you are anxious and scared, try being your teen.

Here are a few Parenting Teenager tips on how to make the best of this stressful and confusing time in your teenager’s life.

Be Open and Understanding

Realize that your teen is going to be stressed and irritable for the first few weeks of their freshman year. There are many things that can contribute to your teen’s moodiness or withdrawn state. They are experiencing numerous changes in their life; all at the same time. Just like when you are pushed to your max with stress, your teen may experience headaches, stomachaches, or sleepiness. They need time and space to figure it all out in their own mind. Be patient and give them the time they need to sort things out for themselves.

Be Available and Reassuring

They may be young adults with a need to start making more decisions on their own and taking on more responsibility, but that doesn’t mean that they are full blown adults with minds that can handle all the stress and pressure of taking on those tasks. Reassure them that you are there when they need you and also how to “back off” when necessary so they can figure things out for themselves.

Your teenager is just that, a teen. You need to let them know that you trust them to make their own decisions. Let them know that you are always there should they get stuck and need a helping hand from someone they trust. Show them in ways other than saying things such as, “I’m here if you want to talk.” It’s not always easy for a teenager to start up a serious conversation, especially with Mom or Dad. There are times when you need to get creative. Depending on your teen that may mean writing a letter or taking them shopping and talking about what’s going on in their life while driving.

Be Supportive and Loving

Your teenager is no longer the ‘big dog’, but instead a ‘newbie’. Teenagers need to know that Mom and/or Dad support their decisions. They may have a difficult time fitting in; therefore, the need to try new things is necessary and helps them to figure out who they are. As long as the activity is not detrimental to them or anyone else, let them try a new sport, club, or other extracurricular hobby.

Support them in their decision, even if you know in the long run they will not participate next year. Give them the opportunity to find out for themselves if they enjoy certain activities. Remind them that family is something that will always be there. They are moving away from you as a parent but not disconnecting with the family completely and that’s ok.

Set Routines and Limits

Yes, they may be growing up, but they aren’t adults yet. Even teenagers need routines and limits. It will help to make the transition to high school easier on both of you if make limits together before the first week of school. Sit down and tell your child what your expectations are and really listen to their expectations of you as well. Settle on certain guidelines and routines that make both of you happy with the end result. This not only puts your mind at ease, but will also show your teen that you acknowledge that they are capable of making sound decisions and taking other’s considerations into
account.

Parenting Teenagers can be a trying time and high school can seem overwhelming for them. Share in the good times and be there to lean on for the bad. Before you know it, you’ll be catching that cap and tassel at your teen’s graduation.

If you’re looking for great information on helping your teen through the High School years, you can get it right now…any time of the day, any day of the week. “Real Life Guidance to Helping Your Teen With High School” is available for easy and instant download to your computer.

Money Saving Tips for moms

July 31, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Blogroll, Children, Freebies, Goals, Healthy Living, Just for Fun, Mommy Rambles, Organization, Pamper Yourself, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management, Teenagers, Uncategorized, Working From Home 2 Comments →

Every family should incorporate money saving ideas into the picture. You have a budget, no matter what their financial status is. A budget tells you exactly how much your have coming in, and how much goes out on a monthly basis for the absolute necessities like housing, food, utilities, insurance, transportation and health care.

But what about the future?  That’s another place where a budget comes in handy. When you’ve allotted a portion of the household’s weekly income to the necessities, what’s left over is your discretionary spending amount. These are the funds available to you for short-term expenses, or long-term investments, like your children’s education, and your own retirement funds.

Every family should incorporate money saving ideas into the picture. You have a budget, no matter what their financial status is. A budget tells you exactly how much your have coming in, and how much goes out on a monthly basis for the absolute necessities like housing, food, utilities, insurance, transportation and health care. But what about the future?That’s another place where a budget comes in handy. When you’ve allotted a portion of the household’s weekly income to the necessities, what’s left over is your discretionary spending amount. These are the funds available to you for short-term expenses, or long-term investments, like your children’s education, and your own retirement funds.When the children are growing and requiring more in the way of expenditures, there might not be a lot left over. But even 5% of your income can be a healthy start on an education fund. Extras like bonuses or perhaps half the amount of a raise, will make those future savings grow. Since they aren’t in the budget to start with, they won’t be missed, and you’ll still have a portion of the unexpected income to add to your regular budget.Consider financial counseling at your banking institution, or from a professional. They are often the best sources for learning how to get the most out of the dollars you have to save, and the most out of the future benefits they are going to earn for you. 

A Hot Summer Time Freebie For You

July 28, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children, Mommy Rambles, Organization 1 Comment →

Just yesterday I returned home from a lovely summer family vacation.  My husband and I packed up the kids and flew to Orlando, Florida to hang out with Mickey Mouse and his friends at Disney World (smile).  We all had a marvelous time and it was great to escape the hustle and bustle of our everyday lives. 

I hope that you and yours are enjoying your summer so far.  As I am sure you already know, balancing work and family is certainly a challenge and many mom struggle with it during the summer months when the kids are home from school.  Well I have an amazing freebie that I think you will really enjoy and use.  Its called The Moms Stress Pack and it is filled with great resources for moms to help reduce summer stress.

You can download your own Stress Pack here and  gain instant access to your freebies.

By clicking the link above you will gain access to kids summer activities, family friendly summer recipes, summer exercises for moms and more. My son and I will be making Banana Caterpillars this week.  The recipe for that is on page 9 of the Easy Summer Meal Ideas Freebie.

Get It Done Quickly – 30 Second Chores for Busy Moms

July 25, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Blogroll, Children, Just for Fun, Organization, Parenting, Stress Management, Uncategorized No Comments →

Even if you only have a half a minute to spare, you can actually get some chores done! With a busy, overscheduled life we seldom have extra time to take care of anything. These quick chores will only take part of a moment of your time.

1. Empty the trash in the bathroom — Those small trash cans in our homes can sometimes be overlooked until they are overflowing. Make this chore easier and more quickly accomplished by storing extra liners in the bottom of the trash can. It will only take a moment to wrap up the used liner and open up the new one.

2. Dust the TV screen  – The television screen seems to always need a good dusting. Try a used dryer sheet to help keep dust from resettling.

3. Clean a mirror – Try using vinegar and newspaper to clean your mirror. The vinegar will help the mirror dry streak free. Newspaper will leave less fuzzy residue than paper towels.

4. Wipe down an appliance -  Take a moment and wipe down the outside of your dishwasher, refrigerator, oven, washing machine, or dryer. Don’t forget about the outward appearance of the machines you depend on. Wipe up spots and spills quickly, and your appliances will only need an occasional thorough wipe down.
 
5. Test your smoke alarm – Smoke alarms should be tested monthly and batteries should be replaced at least annually. Try testing the battery on the same day of the month to help you remember. 
 
Don’t worry about getting it ALL done in one day MOM – There are no Super Moms here – just take it one day, one task at a time :)

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Hip Moms create meal plans…

July 24, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Blogroll, Children, Freebies, Goals, Healthy Living, Organization, Pamper Yourself, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management, Teenagers, Uncategorized, Working From Home No Comments →

Why not give yourself a much-needed break — cook ahead today so you can relax tomorrow!  Meal planning and bulk cooking are both wonderful techniques you can use and modify to fit your families needs. The idea behind this is simple. The principle is that you cook and or prepare your meals ahead of time and then preserve them by either freezing or fridgerating them. Also, meal planning you can cook one large meal and get 2-3 other meals out of it!
Here are some free meal planning tips for you :)    http://reallifesolutions.net/personal/meal-planning.html

I love to meal plan so if you have any tips for other moms out there – feel free to post them in the comments!

Wordless Wednesday

July 23, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Just for Fun 3 Comments →

Tackle It Tuesday!

July 22, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Goals 9 Comments →

Tackle It Tuesday MemeI love getting my “tackle it” list onto by blog.

Here is what I need to tackle today and during the entire week:

1. Connect with my VA and pass along some tasks for completion while I am away Thurs & Friday. She is awesome and now handles the bulk of my email.

2 . Keep working to get a sponsor for the Parenting My Teen Podcast and I am also on the lookout for a great guest.  We have a great advertising sale going on during the summer.

3. Prepare, Pack and clean up the house so that the family and I can head off to Disney World on Thursday (YAY). Finally a real family vacation were we all can kick back and have fun.  We fly out early Thursday morning and will be back Late Sunday afternoon :) .

4. Continue on my mission to add 1-2 articles a day to Real Life Solutions.  It really is growing into such a nice content site for moms.

So, do you care to share what you have already tackled and/or still need to tackle today?

A Jacquelyn of all trades

July 18, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Children 1 Comment →

Last night before I went to bed I smiled thinking back on the day.  When I got home from work, my oldest (20yo)  daughter called me because my grandson has been quite fussy lately.  So I sat on the phone with Shayna giving her some motherly advice on how to try to soothe my now 2month old grandson. After I got off the phone Shay & Baby seemed to be a bit more at ease.

On my way downstairs to start dinner – my 17yo calls me into the computer room and she shows me the spreadsheet she has outlining the college she wants to addend next year. So I pulled up a chair and together we looked at her 4 college choices and compared them all, looked over her High School transcripts (she will be a Senior next year) then we outlined a few classes that she should take her Senior year that would look GREAT on a college application.  So, we spent about 1.5 hrs at the computer doing this and when I looked up my then 8yo was asking about dinner.

Looking at the clock, I could see the only thing I’d be whipping up for the kids would be bowls of cereal or a sandwich. So, I decided to call out for Chinese Delivery (smile).  While waiting for the food – I went into my son’s room and we wrestled (yes like WWE wrestling) we wrestled for about 20mins on his bed and floor then played his Wii (Kung Fu Panda) for another 20minutes.

After dinner, shower and getting my youngest off to bed… I slipped into bed and smiled about how much I enjoy being a parent to my 20, 17 and 8yo and how different it is to parent them.  Last night truly made me feel like a Jacquelyn Of All Trades

Five Easy 10-Minute Organizing Tasks For Busy Moms

July 18, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Blogroll, Children, Freebies, Goals, Healthy Living, Organization, Pamper Yourself, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management, Teenagers, Uncategorized, Working From Home No Comments →

We all know how busy mom’s are and organizing seems like a never-ending task.  Well, if you have just 10 short minutes, here are 5 great organizing tasks you can do in ten minutes or less:

1. Clean out your medicine cabinet. Get rid of old makeup, expired medicine and toiletries you haven’t used in months.

2. Clear off your desk. Take everything off your desk and clear the surface, even if you have to temporarily put everything on the floor in categorized piles (i.e. paper, supplies, electronic media, etc.).  Once you can see your desk, you’ll have a surface on which to begin organizing everything you just removed from it.

3. Delete, delete, delete. For the next 10 minutes, delete as many messages as you can from your email inbox. This includes forwarded jokes, unsolicited messages and email you can simply read and chuck.

4. Organize a drawer. Whether it’s your junk drawer, a drawer in your bedroom dresser or a desk drawer, spend 10 minutes emptying out the junk, and arranging it so that similar items are being stored together.

5. Make a Donation Box. Simply get a large cardboard box and label it ‘Donation Box.’ Every chance you get, place items that are in good condition, but you no longer use, inside the box. When it’s full, call your local charity to come pick it up, or drop it off if they don’t offer a pick-up service.
 
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Have You Pampered Yourself Lately?

July 16, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Pamper Yourself 2 Comments →

All moms need special pampering, but don’t forget to include your daughters in on the pampering from time to time.  This is a vital part of parenting because you will teach your daughter that pampering herself is a very important part of life.

If you have a younger daughter, you can pamper her by inviting her with you to the nail salon or perhaps by doing each others nails.  This is a great idea for a fun mother-daughter night. Take turns giving each other facials and manicures, rubbing lotion on your feet or combing each others hair. If you have an older daughter, you can save and plan for a special  mother-daughter pampering day at the spa.

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