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My Tell Me / You Thursday

January 17, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Blogroll, Goals, Just for Fun, Mommy Rambles No Comments →

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Yestderdays Wordless Wednesday for me was CLASSIC. That picture there is typical of how I think and feel Each and every day that I get up and get bombarded with questions, issues, bickering, the constant calls of “MOMMMYYYY, HONEYYYY.. were are my x,y,z’s.  All I want it 20 minutes to myself, in a quiet room with a large cup of coffee that I get to drink ALL the way to the bottom without interruption.

How many of you moms can relate to that :)

Haven’t you waited long enough?

January 17, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Blogroll, Children, Goals, Healthy Living, Mommy Rambles, Organization, Stress Management, Working From Home No Comments →

I want you to take the next 30 seconds to focus on you.  I’ll help with the task by asking the following questions.

  • Do you feel like you are being pushed and pulled between priorities in your personal life and your work or business? 
  • Do you feel like something is going to give soon if you don’t find a better way to balance things?
  • Are you excited or anxious about areas in your life that you want to work on but you just simply don’t know where, when or how to actually start? 

If you answered yes to any of the questions above, I want you to read on.

Just as many people have personal trainers to help them work towards their physical fitness goals, there are personal trainers to help individuals work towards their life goals.  That is, of course, what I do for so many people as a personal life coach.  I’m that personal trainer that’s in your corner as you prepare to face life’s opportunities
 and challenges. 

Working with a life coach is a process that helps you to understand where you are today, where you want to go and the steps you’ll take to get there.

Unlike therapy which looks to your past to determine why you are the way you are, coaching looks ahead.  If what you really want is to move from dreaming to taking action on those things that will move you towards your life goals then I encourage you to contact me.  As your personal life coach I will work with you to visualize that path to fulfillment.

When you choose to work with a life coach you are taking the first action-oriented step to moving yourself from that sometimes paralyzing state of inaction to goal realization. 

Whether you want to get more organized in your home, improve the quality of your family life or achieve success in your business or profession—you’ll feel empowered to make these goals a reality with the professional guidance of a life coach.   As your “personal” life coach I’ll be cheering you on every…step…of…the…way.

The concept of coaching isn’t new.  Most of us have benefited from coaching of some sort at some point in our lives. From childhood little league baseball to meaningful mentors in our work and personal life—coaches provide that special supportive relationship we sometimes need to build confidence and to succeed.

As your life coach I’ll be there to help clear away the fog so you can clearly see that first step of that first challenge or opportunity that you want to work through.  I’ll be your sounding board, mentor, advisor, trainer and motivator helping you to stay focused and to follow through on your personal and professional goals. 

What are you waiting for?  Contact me today at  and let’s talk about your future.

Take advantage of my free initial consultation and let me help you realize and release your full potential! 

LOL — Queen Latifah’s Excedrin

January 16, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Goals, Working From Home No Comments →

Queen Latifah’s Excedrin Racial Tension Headache commercial

Wednesday Give-a-way

January 16, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Blogroll, Children, Freebies, Goals, Healthy Living, Just for Fun, Mommy Rambles, Organization, Pamper Yourself, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management, Teenagers No Comments →

Hi Everyone -  I have a fantastic give-a-way for you this week.

If it seems like the older they get, the harder it is to understand what goes on in their mind, have no fear…  The ‘Real Life Guidance Guide to Understanding Your Teen’ report is now available to help solve the mysteries.    

*Be sure  to click the link above so that you can read about what you have a chance of winning.* Here is some of what you will find inside this report:

  • Why There Are Some Things You CAN’T Control - Controlling them doesn’t mean you can’t work on those things and help your child through them.

  • Why Your Teen Has Those Lovely Mood Swings - Learn why they act like they are two different people from one minute to the next.

  • Tips for Dealing With Your Teen’s Moodiness - You’ll find out how you can make it easier on your teen to handle those “snap of the finger” mood changes.

  • To win this totally free copy of the report (and all the awesome bonuses that come with it) all you have to do is this:

    1. Simply create a comment to this entry telling us why you Need this report on ‘Understanding Your Teen’.  Your comment must be 100 words or longer.  That’s it :)

    I will choose a winner on Friday and announce the winner right here on the Blog!  Hey, if you know of a mom out there who you feel would like to enter this contest, please feel free to share this post with her so that she can join in on the fun.

    Good Luck to you all!

    Wordless Wednesday

    January 16, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Children, Goals, Healthy Living, Just for Fun, Mommy Rambles No Comments →

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    Motion For Success

    January 14, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Blogroll, Children, Goals, Stress Management, Working From Home No Comments →

    Last night I was interviewed by Jessica of Motion For Success.   Motion For Success is an internet radio show and podcast about helping you improve your life and prepare your mind and body for weight loss success.

    Be sure to tune in as soon as possible – I am talking about how to prepare for setting your goals, why rewarding yourself is important and how to reach your goals even when you have set backs.

    I’m a Meal Planning Mama’

    January 13, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Blogroll, Children, Healthy Living, Just for Fun, Mommy Rambles, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management, Teenagers No Comments →

    As most of you know, I love to be organized and I am an avid meal planner  I created the meal plan on Saturday as soon as I got the Sales papers in the mail and I scoped out all of the grocery store deals.I thought I would share my plan with you. You won’t believe how easy meal planning makes our evenings go.  I already have 3 of our meals cooked for this week and already sitting in the fridge/freezer.

    Tonight:  Spaghetti, Salad, Garlic Bread

    Monday:  Turkey Wings, Rice, Collard Greens

    Tuesday: Pasta Primavera with chicken (Some Birds Eye concoction I’ve never tried before) Wednesday:  Leftover Spaghetti

    Thursday:  Baked Fish, Rice, Corn

    Friday – Saturday:  Order out, fast food, leftovers from the week – who cares but I wont be cooking (I always take Friday & Saturday off)

    Sunday: Roast smothered in cream of mushroom soup, Potatoes, Baby carrots 

    Have you gotten your hands on Freezing It & Loving It

    What Aurelia Means

    January 13, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Blogroll, Children, Freebies, Goals, Mommy Rambles, Organization, Pamper Yourself, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management, Teenagers, Uncategorized, Working From Home No Comments →

    I was cruising past Christina’s Blog and came across a really cool post of hers.  She found a site that would tell her what her beautiful name means. Well of course I wanted to see what my name meant too….

    What Aurelia Means

    You are usually the best at everything … you strive for perfection.

    You are confident, authoritative, and aggressive.
    You have the classic “Type A” personality.

    You are a very lucky person. Things just always seem to go your way. And because you’re so lucky, you don’t really have a lot of worries. You just hope for the best in life.
    You’re sometimes a little guilty of being greedy. Spread your luck around a little to people who need it.

    You are wild, crazy, and a huge rebel. You’re always up to something.  You have a ton of energy, and most people can’t handle you. You’re very intense.

    You definitely are a handful, and you’re likely to get in trouble. But your kind of trouble is a lot of fun.

    You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone.

    You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together.

    At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together.

    You are relaxed, chill, and very likely to go with the flow.
    You are light hearted and accepting. You don’t get worked up easily.

    Well adjusted and incredibly happy, many people wonder what your secret to life is.

    You tend to be pretty tightly wound. It’s easy to get you excited… which can be a good or bad thing.

    You have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. You don’t stick with any one thing for very long.
    You have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Your biggest problem is making sure you finish the projects you start.

    What’s Your Name’s Hidden Meaning?

    Positive Ways to Deal with Anger

    January 13, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Children, Freebies, Goals, Healthy Living, Organization, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management, Teenagers, Working From Home No Comments →

    “This is making me a headache!”

    That lovely line above came out of my now 5yo’s mouth when he was frustrated over the daunting task of trying to learn how to tie his shoes. He blurted the sentence out then tossed the sneaker across the room. I walked over to him and talked to him about his frustration (Heck, getting those loops just right is hard work — smile). I explained to him that while it is OK to get angry and frustrated that there are proper ways to do it.

    Anger is a completely natural response to frustration. Let’s face it, life is filled with things that can become frustrating, and most of those things are totally out of our control. What we do control is how we deal with those issues. In this message, I wanted to touch on positive ways that we can deal with, express and release our anger and frustration in positive ways.

    Think it out – When you begin to feel angry — sit down, relax and then try to think about how you can solve the issue.

    Talk it out – Talk to a friend, coach, counselor, or a church member. Expressing your anger by talking to someone about it is a great way to get the anger out.

    Write it out – Keep a journal about your feelings. It really helps to get your feeling out of our head and heart and onto paper.

    Let it out – Find a place that is secluded and SCREAM!! Yes, let it out – you can scream into a pillow, punch a pillow or stomp. Sometimes a good temper tantrum is in order.

    Channel it out – Find some creative way to channel your feelings. Listen to music, paint, turn on the music and dance! There are many ways to creatively channel out anger.

    Chill out – Try listening to calming music, taking in slow deep breaths, meditating or doing yoga.

    Work it out – Do something physical. Get out and run, go to the gym or go for a brisk walk.

    Please keep in mind that anger isn’t always a bad emotion but sometimes the way we deal with our anger is bad. There are many times where anger can be good and is quite appropriate. At can be protection from allowing other people to manipulate or dominate us. It can also motivate us to take action when needed.

    Take a look at Journey To Joy, an inspiring eBook that explores many obstacles that women face. It also provides essential action steps, worksheets, resources and an hour long Balancing Your Life Audio!

    You Have To Say No Sometime (Don’t Over Commit!)

    January 12, 2008 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: About the Family, Goals, Organization, Parenting, Self Esteem, Stress Management, Uncategorized No Comments →

    NO! It’s amazing how such a small word can carry such a mighty punch, isn’t it? Learning how to say no can be difficult, but it’s worth it for many reasons. By saying no you become more productive, reduce your stress levels and are more focused on the things you choose to say yes to.

    The reason many people get in a situation where they are overwhelmed with work is because they feel guilty if the thought of telling someone no even crosses their mind. By taking on too many duties, just to appease your guilty feelings, you are hurting not only yourself, but those requesting your time as well.

    If you truly can’t fit something into your schedule without burdening yourself beyond reason, it’s ok to say no. Keep your tasks and projects at a level that is manageable for you. If you become overloaded, make certain that you let people know that. Many times, they will understand and will gladly wait until you have the time to complete their request.

    Here are a few ways you can politely let others know you are not available to help them. You don’t have to just tell them no and leave it at that.

    - If the task is something you are interested in doing, but don’t have the time to commit at that moment, tell them that it is something you are definitely interested in, but you will need to review your schedule. This gives you time to decide if you can commit to the project or if you must turn it down.

    - Resist the urge to immediately say yes by telling the person that you need to look at your schedule before you can commit to them. Let them know that you want to be sure their project is getting your undivided attention.

    - You can also say something along the lines of “That sounds like a great idea, unfortunately, I don’t have time to help you with it at the moment. However, I do have time available on this date.”

    - Make it very clear that you value their time so you are not comfortable taking on the project at this time. You won’t feel you’ve done your best due to the fact that your schedule is already full. Then offer them the next available time you do have open.

    You can’t possibly be everything to everybody. The sooner you realize this, the less you will feel like you are being pulled in a hundred different directions. It’s time to face this fact: You have to say no sometimes.

    In order to keep moving towards your ultimate goals you need to know when to say no and when to push things off your plate. It can be hard, but in the end you will be happier, gain more respect from those requesting your assistance and get more done in the long run.