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Mommy Hobby – a great site…

July 30, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Freebies, Pamper Yourself, Uncategorized No Comments →

As a Mommy you work hard but you can still take some time out of your busy schedule to pursue a hobby, just for you. Come visit Mommy Hobby soon and discover something fun to do just for you.

Teen Self Esteem: How Parents Can Help

July 29, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children, Parenting No Comments →

How many teenagers do you meet that really have a strong sense of self esteem? Not many if you tell the truth. It’s a treat to find a fifteen year old who knows and likes who they are. Healthy teen self esteem is first nurtured at home. A secure home life, supportive parents and a reliable extended family provide the launching point that allows children to thrive. From there it’s a safe school environment and positive peer relationships that further affirm their feelings of being valuable to others.

If a teens home life offers more negative feedback than positive nurturing, it is nearly impossible for that child to come through puberty feeling good about themselves.

Teenagers who don’t have a strong sense of personal value from their parents are left viewing themselves through the critical eyes of their peers. And what they see there is often disappointing.

Making embarrassing mistakes, feeling clumsy, going through puppy love heart break or not doing everything right the first time you try is all part of being a teenager. But a teen with low self esteem takes every stumble personally and internalizes the failure as being part of who they are.

This is why it is so important to help our kids survive their mistakes and deal with disappointments from an early age. Positive teen self esteem is crucial. The best way to improve your teen’s self-esteem is to take a very active role in your teen’s life. Just by knowing your teen’s interests, friends, strengths, and weaknesses, you will be aware of any problems that may arise.

If you have a teenager who is struggling with low self esteem, you have to take every opportunity that presents itself to remind them that they are valuable to you and to others. Provide them with opportunities to be with people who will build them up and encourage them.

Aurelia Williams is the host of Parenting My Teen Podcast and is also the owner of Real Life Solutions, a free resource site for moms.

Parenting My Teen Podcast

July 27, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Parenting, Uncategorized No Comments →

The Parenting My Teen Podcast is a show all about you and your teens. Being a parent to a teen is a very rewarding experience, but it isn’t always an easy job. We are here to help you along the way with our team of teen experts. Visit us soon and be sure to set your calendar to tune in to our debut show.

Do You Want a Work at Home Job?

July 27, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Uncategorized, Working From Home 1 Comment →

If you’ve been interested in telecommuting (working from home for someone) this free online event is for you! Nell Taliercio, also known as the Telecommuting Answer Lady, is putting together the first annual Telecommuting Moms Month for anyone hoping to work at home.

When will it be?
The online event starts September 4th and runs through September 29th 2006

Where do you find it?
Simply visit Here
to learn more and be sure to sign up for Nell’s newsletter to be notified of the event details, where to access the calls, and contest information.

What will you find at the event?
Nell has interviewed the top experts in the telecommuting field and you’ll have access to those interviews. You’ll also be able to listen to and read a few successful telecommuting mom stories and enter the “Ultimate Job Seekers Contest”!

Experts and their topics:

•Job Searching Success Tips by Nell Taliercio
•Approaching a Current Employer for the Telecommuting Option by Phil Montero
•Cover Letter and Resume Secrets by Jennifer Anthony
•Application and Interview Tips from an Employer by Sylvie Charrier
•Telecommuting Tax Tips by Arika Liddard

Keep updated on the event details and information by joining Nell’s newsletter! Not only will you be updated with the event information, but she also sends out job leads, telecommuting information, company links and more. Pop over to her newsletter site:

Back To School Shopping Tips For Moms

July 26, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Children, Parenting No Comments →

Did you know that the 2nd busiest shopping season of the year is about to start soon? That’s right, the ‘back to school’ shopping season ranks just behind Christmas as being the busiest shopping season for us all.

Summer is quickly passing us by and soon the school bells will be ringing.  I have 1 child in Elementary School, one child in High School and another child in College and if it weren’t for following some tried and true back to school shopping tips, I would be stressed out.

I wanted to share these tips with you in hopes of making your back to school shopping go a bit smoother this year. 

You can visit the article here.

Also, here are some essential tips to help your chrildren become stronger readers.


Relaxation & Stress Reduction

July 25, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Healthy Living, Pamper Yourself, Stress Management No Comments →

Hi there – I just wanted to share this with you. I am a proud owner of The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook and I have just worked through the entire book. I’ve been curious about this book for some time now and wanted to experience it 1st hand before recommendating it to my clients and friends.

I found this workbook to be very appropriate for anyone looking to find ways to reduce the amount of anxiety and stress they feel. It is formatted very nicely and comes with many self tests, stress reduction techniques and tips on reducing stress. The thing that I loved the most about this book is that it wasn’t a One Size Fit’s All workbook. It offered many different techniques that I am sure will help many different people!

If you have been looking for ways to work on your Relaxation and Stress Reduction then this workbook is for you.

Be Well,

Budget Living

July 23, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Uncategorized No Comments →

With the cost of just about everythign on the rise, living on a budget is something that most people are doing.  Here are just a few of my budget living tips:

  • Yard Sales – Have one and visit them.  Why not go throught your home and see what you have that is in good condition that you can sell. Also be sure to visit yard sales as well – you can find some GREAT items at little cost.
  • Use those coupons – When you toss those weekly coupons out with the trash it’s almost like throwing away CASH. Take a few moments each week to cut out just the coupons you can really use, then look through the grocery store advertisements and match your coupons to the sales, saving double!
  • Slow down and drive at the speed limit. Cars use about 20% more fuel driving at 70 miles per hour than they do at 55 miles per hour.

Visit Budget Living and Discover How to Live on a Budget & Save More Money Than You Ever Thought Possible – Without Giving Up All the Things That You Love!

Time Managment Tips

July 21, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Organization, Uncategorized No Comments →

Here are a few of my favorite Time management Tips:

1. Meal Planning: Try planning 1 – 2 weeks worth of meals at a time and write them down on a calendar. Do your shopping accordingly and prep tomorrows dinner today. You will be AMAZED at what a time saver this is.  (Read My Meal Planning Article for more information)

2. To-Do Lists: I know most people HATE them but they actually do work. Just take a few moments out of your day (either in the morning or in the evening) to make a list for that day or the following day. Be sure to only put down the items that you MUST finish on this list.

3. Delegate: Do you have friends, a husband, children that can pitch in and do a few things for you? If so, be sure to use all of your resources.

4. Morning Rush: Scooting the children out of the door can be a huge time eater! Be sure to prepare lunches, lay out clothes and plan your breakfast the night before. This will make your mornings run a tad smoother.

5. Just say “NO”!: Such a small word that carries a might punch! If you truly can’t fit something into your schedule and it is not urgent, just say No!. Keep a list of non-urgent things that you can do on hand for when you do have some down time.

Well, those are just a few of my time management tips. I personally set aside about 15 minutes a night and sit down with my Palm Pilot and make a short TO-DO list for the following day and it is amazing at the time this save.

Also be mindful of your own body. Are you a morning, afternoon or night person? Try to schedule your most time consuming tasks when you have the most energy.

Take Care!


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Tips for Overcoming Procrastination

July 21, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Goals, Organization No Comments →

I’ve been meaning to do a blog entry on procrastination for week now, but I just haven’t found the time to get around to it. Now how could I have resisted an opening like that? Do you frequently find yourself putting essential tasks off until tomorrow, later, or never instead of doing them today? If procrastination has worked its way into your life, it may be time to change the way you think about your tasks and goals and begin to utilize better ways of tackling those things you’ve been procrastinating on.As you can imagine and probably know from personal experience, when you procrastinate it not only affects the task but it can also affect you emotionally and bring on feelings such as guilt, inadequacy and stress.

There are many reasons that you may procrastinate. Poor time management, anxiety about a certain task and being bored by a certain task are just a few of the reasons that people procrastinate. In the end, procrastination usually leads to more stress.

Here are some tips for overcoming procrastination and building momentum:

Can you approach the task differently? Always be mindful of how you approach tasks. Ask yourself: Do I need to use a different technique? Will a new way of approaching this task make me feel better? How can I get some JOY out of starting this project? We all work in different ways and are inspired by different things. Find what works well for you and go with it.

Be sure you have what you need: Make certain that you have the right information, equipment and energy level to enable you to complete the task.

Plan, plan, plan: Did I say Plan? The time we spend in preparation and planning to see a task to completion is imperative. Set a time limit for yourself. Put a deadline on your tasks and work to reach that deadline.

Break it down: Big projects can feel overwhelming. Break them down into the smaller subparts. You’ll get more done if you can do it piece by piece. Even the most dreadful tasks can be done in small increments.

Boost yourself up: Give your own motivation a good boost. Trust in your strengths. Take a moment to reflect upon other tasks that you have accomplished and feel good about! Keep reminding yourself that you can be successful!

Reward yourself: Celebrate and let yourself enjoy the completion of your tasks (large or small). It is important to never minimize your accomplishments.

Overcoming procrastination can be done and it usually involves both better organizational and time-management. You can start overcoming procrastination now and in the process, feel much better about yourself. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll be surprised at how much joy, exhilaration and sense of accomplishment is on the other side of procrastination.

Article by:

Aurelia Williams, certified Personal Life Coach and owner of Real Life Coaching and Real Life Solutions, a Family Resource site that helps you lead an emotionally & physically healthier, more productive and less stressful life.

Dump the Junk & Think Positively!

July 21, 2006 By: RealLifeSolutions Category: Self Esteem, Uncategorized No Comments →

Dump the Junk & Think Positively!

Are you carrying around some junk? You know, those hurtful and unconstructive things that you may have been told by someone during the course of your life. It was supposed to be taken with a grain of salt or simply ignored but most of the times we take that criticism and wear it like a hat of shame!

It is one thing to listen to constructive criticism and then make changes to better ourselves or our situation, but it is something else to listen to rude and downright mean criticism and then take it to heart. Well, why not declare this a time to clear out the junk! That means that it is now time unload all of those negative, non-constructive, non-truths that you have been told.

The change is quite simple to start then takes some work to keep up. Start by seeing the best in others and think about all of the good qualities that you have rather than the qualities that you don’t have. Change the actual quality of our thoughts. By concentrating on good, quality thoughts, we begin to experience self-pleasure, happiness and self-respect. Along the way, we also recognize our own unique skills and abilities. Let these quality thoughts become your hat, not the negative thoughts that were thrown at you out of anger, jealousy, or another negative emotion.

Try not to analyze every thought down the teeniest detail. Use your thoughts to keep things in perspective. Many times we fall into a trap of thinking too much and we end up spending a large amount of time debating with ourselves, or trying to see how our thoughts will be perceived by our peers. Many times this process will actually stop us from being who we truly are!

Life will always be filled with a few curve balls and surprises and I encourage everyone to really work at being more positive (in your thoughts, speech and actions). Work at this daily until it becomes so much of a habit, that you won’t even have to think about it.

Positive thinking is infectious and leads to a ‘can do’ attitude within any individual that adopts this approach to life. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds.

Below are just a few examples of typical negative self-talk and how you might apply a positive twist to those thoughts:

Negative Thought: I’ve never done it before & I don’t know how to do it
Positive Spin: It’s an opportunity to learn something new.

Negative Thought: No one wants to communicate with me.
Positive Spin: I’ll see if I can open the channels of communication.

Here are a few action steps that will help you to empty the junk of Negative thoughts and to add the nourishment of positive ones.

· Stop negative thoughts in their tracks. Whenever you hear yourself “thinking” a negative thought ~ STOP and replace it with a positive thought. Instead of saying to yourself, “I’m not good at this.” Stop yourself and say, “I am getting better at this with each and every try.”

· If you catch yourself visualizing failure, switch to visualizing success.

· Look for the positive. No matter what the situation is, there is always a negative and a positive side of it. Sometimes, the positive side may not be easy to see right off the bat, but if you look deep enough it is there.

Decide that from today, you are leaving negative thinking behind, and starting on the way towards positive thinking. It is never too late to start this process and soon you will notice things changing for the better.

Article by:


Aurelia Williams, certified Personal Life Coach and owner of Real Life Coaching and Real Life Solutions, a Family Resource site that help you lead an emotionally & physically healthier, more productive and less stressful life.